Ok. So that's not entirely true.
I manage four apartment complexes, and live at one of them. The perks of living where you work is that no matter what the "office hours" are, you're never 100% "off work." 2nd perk is that you're "friend list" is limited. We work M-F. Butch & I work together. 3rd perk is that we work at home. 4th perk is that rent is covered. Since Butch has numerous munchkins that child support is paid on (he's one of those parents that pitch in Above the amounts that have been taken out of his paychecks for years), perk #4 is a HUGE help. Downside #1 is that we don't have many friends. The motto of our job is to "be friendly, not friends". Don't get me wrong, there are children that come over to play with our kids, have "slumber parties" (I meant "sleep overs"... Boys don't have "slumber parties" or so the 4 guys in my house pointed out), and we often take extra kids swimming and to church and the movies... Back to Downside #1. The grown ups in the house (Butch & I) don't really hang out with anyone. After we tackle M-F that leaves 2 precious "days off". We spend at least one weekend a month hauling the munchkins to their dad's house (approx 2 hr drive, with traffic). That kills 1/2 a day after work on a Fri. He brings them back Sun. Depending on how close the Saturday is to payday- we spend it cruising thrift stores, dinner, movie, vegging at home in our pj's. If I'm stuck home broke, you'll often find me at home with a box of paperwork from work that I'm trying to play "catch up" on. In the 3 years we've been here (and the 5 we did throughout the years before that) we haven't really "hung out" with people. The weekends we have the kids we would A) go see my parentals (who live 4ish hours away) for the wkend, B) go see TWIN for the wkend (that was B4 she transferred to Germany... frowny face), C) if we have some extra $ and the weather is good we'll take the kids to the movies or the coast or somewheres fun... Point is - we spend a lot of time Just Us, at home, hanging with our kids & their friends.
I get to go to a friend's house today! A grown up, adult, non-tenant, not living at an apt complex, woman!!
She did used to be my tenant... years ago. But I'm proud to say she didn't hang out with any of them, hasn't ever done drugs, isn't a big whooore that slept with them all, doesn't have a passle of misc kids by misc males, is "normal", isn't mentally unstable, lives in an actual house that she owns with the father of her child. She's only spent a year sporadically dropping in to see me with offers to come see her new house (which I'm embarassed to say is Across The Street from my youngest school which I'm at at least once a week).
We're going to go to her house and visit her today!!
Between working FT and playing mommy FT to mine (and numerous other children around here) I haven't cultivated adult relationships outside of those related to me. I've mentioned the idea time-to-time to Twin. I've attached Mommy's Bible Studies and church in hopes of finding people to relate to there, but to no avail.
So no matter how mathetic and "poor me" this all sounds... I'm excited about getting to spend a little time on my Saturday having a grown up "play date"